Cutting the Red Thread

Recently I was introduced to the “red string of fate” or “red string of marriage” which is an East Asian belief found in both Chinese and Japanese legend. The legend basically states that the gods tie an invisible red cord around the ankles of those that are destined to meet one another in a certain situation or help each other in a certain way.

The two people connected by the red thread are destined to be lovers, regardless of place, time or circumstances. The red thread can be stretched and tangled but can never break.

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The Red String of Fate by Kassandraleigh

This concept of the “red string of fate” or what us Westerners like to call “soulmates” is a concept I have given a lot of thought to. Having met what most would call my soulmate at 15 in high school I have spent many nights over the last ten years pondering our connection and the circumstances that led us to find each other.

If you asked me if I thought we were “meant to be”, I would say no. Being a very logical and practical person I think the idea of David being my soulmate is an insult to the time and energy we both have put into ensuring the growth and success of our relationship. I also think telling someone who is struggling to find their life mate that they just haven’t found “the one” yet is complete fantasy.

Yes, David and I were lucky enough to find each other at a time in our lives where we both were amenable to the idea of forever with each other or even with someone else. We happened to believe in the idea that dating in pursuit of marriage and family made more sense than dating around. We are always told that when we get older we will be able to make the big decisions about who to marry, where to live, or even what type of job we want. There are some of us who just know from the beginning. There is no magical string connecting us. Just a belief in our own futures and the strength to go forth and accomplish what we want.

My love for David has nothing to do with an invisible red thread and if I was proved wrong and could see it surrounding us, connecting us, I would cut it just to prove what we have is so much more than fate.

What do you think? Do you think there is someone out there at the end of your red thread waiting for you? Or is life and love what you make it?

Calvin Klein – Reveal #REVEALMORE

Courtesy of Influenster I received a sample of the new Reveal for men fragrance from Calvin Klein. Even though I am completely down with women using men’s fragrances I decided to have my fiance test this fragrance and give me his opinion along with my own. Two heads, or noses, are better than one right?

Reveal VoxBox

Reveal VoxBox – Courtesy of Influenster

My fiance spritzed the scent on his chest, blending it in with his wrists and immediately said “That is strong.” I did not agree as I thought the scent was subtle and did not attack my nostrils like some of the other fragrances he has worn.

“It smells like I have been in the kitchen with an apron on baking cookies all day.” He said next. Coming from him I was surprised because he is not the stereotypical dude and actually does most of our cooking. He then explained that it gave him the feminine vibe from the scent rather than a manly woodsy one. My guess is that his nose was picking up the vanilla a lot more than mine hence the baking cookies comment.

Reveal fragrance for men by Calvin Klein

Reveal fragrance for men by Calvin Klein

The scent mixed with his natural scent was very appealing. Closing my eyes and smelling it had me imagining him in the woods chopping down half the forrest in order to build me the most magnificent log cabin. Before I could allow myself to daydream further he interrupted by saying again how strong the scent was.

Sadly I do no think this will be a scent I will be purchasing for him. Although I do plan on seeking out the Reveal fragrance for women as I thought the mens scent was luxurious.

Lost Girl received this product(s) complimentary to test and/or review from Influenster.com